Thursday, April 15, 2021

They will solve it, stay by their side if necessary


They will solve it, stay by their side if necessary

 Age eight to twelve. Does that mean they don't have a problem? Pre-teen children also have to deal with many types of problems. Lack of friendship with friends, disobedience to parents, physical changes, curiosity about adults ... in the face of such various questions and problems, weapons like 'don't do it, 'eat too much reprimand' become useless in many cases. Because the intellect of ten- to twelve-year-olds is gradually maturing, there is also room for counter-questioning. So parents need to be proactive in solving their problems rather than keeping them quiet. But the solution does not mean hand in hand. One of the biggest lessons of parenting today is to slowly move children on the path to finding solutions to problems.

At a young age, children cannot solve everything alone. That should not be expected. But it is better not to give this assurance that parents are the savior in all problems. Because it shows a lack of confidence in the child. On the contrary, parents do not trust their children to leave them alone. The attitude of overcoming all entanglements also gives birth to ‘over-protective parenting among parents.

Here are a few simple tips to help children become aware of their problems before they set foot in the teens.

Bullying at school and problems with friends

This is very common among pre-teen students. If there is a quarrel or quarrel with friends, the parents of both the parties come down to the ground to resolve it. That is never desirable. The problem is not solved at all. "They have to give their time,".  If parents do not come forward and leave them as they are, they will just be friends. But if the problem escalates, the adults will intervene, that's the next thing. "

The problem of physical or verbal bullying is often not explained by children. Are wrapped up in themselves or become more aggressive. According to Pailing Consultant Payal Ghosh, role-playing at home can teach parents that the problem can be solved initially by pushing or shoving someone, by a wink, or by listening. That is to explain to the friend that he will not accept the harassment.

Sibling rivalry

There can be quarrels between two brothers, two sisters, or siblings. But in most cases, the parents try to solve the problem on behalf of the children. Or the older child is told, ‘You have to adjust when you are older.’ In this case, the older child may feel helpless, may suffer from depression. So parents can encourage two people to come to terms with each other without getting involved. Parents can say, ‘You are disturbing the house, so no one will be given a toy or anything you are upset about.’ They may find a way to solve the problem on their own by watching their parents rollover.

Given responsibility

Eight- to twelve-year-olds create their own likes and dislikes. So they can understand what they like to read. Complaints that children are not paying attention in online classes are often heard. In that case, leave the matter to the child's choice. That is, he will deal with the subject with the help of the school and himself. No more monitoring or additional assistance will be given to him in that subject. You see, if you learn to take responsibility for yourself, you will learn the strategy to master the subject better.

At this age, you can not only do school work but also have the responsibility to bring some things to the store or send them to the market. If there is a problem of not being able to buy something because there is no retail in the market, the next time that realization will come out using it and being ready.

Develop a sense of sociality

The habit of maintaining contact with relatives in the nuclear family is not made in many cases. It is very useful. Explain to them from this age, ‘It is like a responsibility or duty. It doesn't matter who is doing it or not. You have to keep the good news for adults and children regularly. You can't always tell your parents everything. They do not even understand. So there may be an adult in the family (grandparents or PC-uncle) with whom these children can talk about their problems.

This is the time to build confidence. Problems will come, but they will also be solved just as you will give this assurance to the child, he will find his way, he will also give them the courage and confidence. 
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